Let’s face it, how many of us actually dream of A Single Mom Christmas! Nope, we’ve heard the song, “I’m Dreaming of A White Christmas,” but not A Single Mom Christmas. It’s tough enough throughout the year, but why not add a crazy hectic holiday season to the mix.
No, I am not saying we have to stress over Christmas, but I know I do. And this post isn’t a rebuke on you as a mother for route you go.
If you want to buy toys for your children, do it. Don’t let someone talk you out of blessing your children.
If you want to teach them the old adage of “it’s better to give than receive” then do that.
Don’t be ashamed of how you and your family celebrate the blessing of God sending His Son to Earth to show us His love. Yes, that’s what I believe Christmas is. That is what I believe the reason is for the season.
There is nothing anti-biblical about giving gifts or receiving them from your loved ones.
And this brings me to my first point:
Buy What You Can
As a single mother, a lot of times our incomes are the only ones coming into the home.
Christmas is not the time to try and compete with anyone (no time is actually). Make yourself a budget all year long, and a budget for Christmas
Set your expectations for your children before the time comes.
My children know that they get 3 gifts from me and one from Santa. It’s been the same for years.
Start saving your money now, and make a list. You don’t have to break the bank. And it’s OK to ask for help if you need it.
Create Traditions as a Single Mom
My family and I are huge on traditions. And this is what your children will remember and expect.
These traditions are simple but have so much meaning behind them once you get them implemented.
Here is a list of some of the traditions we hold close to our hearts, and look forward to.
Christmas Family Tradition #1
For instance, every year, my children and I rid around town to look at Christmas lights. We will get some hot chocolate sometimes, and just ride around for about an hour looking at houses with spectacular lights.
We also look at lights with my parents when we go back to my home town for the Holidays.
It doesn’t take much and it’s a simple thing to spend time with your children.
It’s fun and my children look forward to it each year.
Christmas Family Tradition #2
I highly recommend doing a tradition like this. You’ll get to see them continue similar traditions with their families when that times come, I’m sure of it.
Christmas Family Tradition #3
My family not only includes myself and my children, but my siblings, their families, and my parents.
Family is a big part of our Christmas. Christmas day is spent at my parents house, with everyone there. We open gifts that day, play with our new toys, lounge around, eat a great meal, and watch sports.
I live for this time of the year with my family, and I truly believe my children do to. They smile ear to ear, and wait in anticipation to go to Mimi and Papa’s.
Thankfully, I have a job that allows me to be off work for almost two weeks during the holidays, and the majority of our break is spent at my parents.
Get the family involved in your traditions.
And this brings me to my final suggestion to enjoy your single mom Christmas.
Include your village in your single mom Christmas
You’ve heard me talk about tools to use as a single mom, and your village is one of those tools.
My parents and siblings love to buy gifts for my children. They help. Ask them for help if finances is a problem.
Ask them for suggestions for traditions. I bet they would love to help. Read the Christmas Story in scriptures with your family and your village.
You don’t have to do this alone. Your family loves you, they will help.
I know you will be just fine if you remember what Christmas is about. It’s about seeing the Love God has for us, and remembering what we have. We are blessed with a loving family.
It’s OK to have A Single Mom Christmas
Don’t get discouraged. Don’t try to compete. Remember your why and your blessings.
Christmas is a time for happiness, and love. Mama, your babies will love you no matter if you buy them the world.
Give yourself some grace. Lean on friends, family, and most importantly the Lord. You will make it through.
Take some time, get creative, humble yourself, and enjoy your single mom Christmas!